I had been so worried about being safe, yet here I was with two guys I had never met, waiting for my college pastors to show up to what was Todd and I’s first date.
Never would have imagined.
Looking back now I am astounded at how peaceful and confident I felt.
Todd introduced me to his broken armed friend and we waited for my two to arrive. From the get go I noticed two things, 1. Todd looked straight into my eyes when we talked. He was a man of eye contact, and I didn’t feel weird looking back at him. and 2. He was straight forward.
“Are you done?” Todd asked
“Uhh yeah. I’ll take the rest home.” I replied.
“Ok good. Let’s get out of here,” Todd got up and threw our trash away.
I looked over. Our friends were still eating.
“Let’s walk outside.” He saw me hesitate, “Oh they can catch up. I just want to walk.”
I didn’t look for permission, I just went and followed him.
Our friends ended up catching up but it was obvious that Todd’s focus was on me.
We walked and Todd and I talked about all types of things. We were open. Friends. It was nice.
Like any good date we ended up at an ice cream shop.
“What kind of ice cream do you want?” Todd asked.
I looked around. “I’ll take the chocolate one, but you should know I’m extremely allergic to peanuts. Like I can’t be around them.”
Todd looked at me. “Really? Like how allergic?”
“Like I’ll stop breathing if I’m even around it. I have an Epi-pen in my bag.”
“Oh ok.” He looked really serious. “So no peanuts. Ok”
He paid for my ice cream and we sat near our friends. Naturally peanut reaction stories came up. We talked. Laughed.
“So,” Todd looked over at me. “I had a lot of fun. I’d like to hang out with you again. Would you like that?”
“Yeah, that’d be great.” I responded.
“Yeah? Ok great!”
Todd looked over at our friends, “guys, we decided we want to see each other again!”
Our friends were excited. We took a selfie and said our good byes.
Our next few dates Todd came to my area. We’d go to dinner hang and talk. A few weeks after our first date I decided to drive down to his area for the day. I was welcomed into his home with open arms. Met his family.
Todd went to grab something from his room before we were heading to lunch.
His mom looked at me with a smile and said, “You know Todd told me about your allergy. I got took out all of the peanut candy from our dish.”
“Aww thanks,” I smiled. “I really appreciate it.”
His mom looked back at me and said, “He hasn’t eaten peanuts since he came back from you guys’ first date.”