I am sitting here listening to Taylor Swift’s new album 1989 as I write my next blog on singleness.
But I think Taylor has constantly hit on our culture’s view on relationships. Even the world looks at her as bold. but frankly she shows the consequences of allowing love of relationships without love of health in relationships to rule. Before you stop reading I promise I am not a Swift hater, I actually enjoy her music, but I think her album has allowed me to look at Ruth 3 in a clearer way. You see I read a article from TIME magazine and Taylor had said “I was thinking about this — boys only want love if it’s torture and a constant chase. Men want love if it’s real, right, healthy and consistent,”
Such wisdom from someone who is submerged in the world.
In Ruth 3 you find Naomi starting the chapter off. She thinks it is now time for Ruth to take steps towards getting married.
3-4 “Take a bath. Put on some perfume. Get all dressed up and go to the threshing floor. But don’t let him know you’re there until the party is well under way and he’s had plenty of food and drink. When you see him slipping off to sleep, watch where he lies down and then go there. Lie at his feet to let him know that you are available to him for marriage. Then wait and see what he says. He’ll tell you what to do.” 5 Ruth said, “If you say so, I’ll do it, just as you’ve told me.” (Ruth 3:-5)
She went down to the threshing floor (Ruth 3:6)
As women we desire intimacy more than anything. I walk through life simply desiring to be known. To be able to fearlessly put my heart on the table with all of the fears, hurts, pains, joys, desires, hopes, and for someone to unconditionally accept it, without giving the smallest wince.
Men desire a fight, a pursuit, to live an adventure. Men desire to protect, to keep something of value safe and provided for.
We see Ruth do something that is looked at as a HUGE NO NO in the “Christian” world, she went to Boaz.
I remember having this conversation with a dear friend of mine a month or so ago. She asked me my opinion on the whole women pursuing men thing. Before I answered from my own experiences both good and bad, I felt compelled to look at Ruth 3. Many different things can be said about this chapter but I believe when reading this chapter we often overlook a vital element.
Ruth went to the threshing floor. Boaz was already there.
The threshing floor was where the chaff and the grain were separated in the barley or wheat harvest. This symbolizes so much more than a place where grain was separated. It shows who Ruth was. A woman that grew up different morally but chose to neglect the former things and walk with God. Her character was constantly shown. 10 And he said, “May you be blessed by the Lord, my daughter. You have made this last kindness greater than the first in that you have not gone after young men, whether poor or rich. (Ruth 3:10)
It shows who Boaz was. A redeemer, a man of character, hard work, and was not scared of taking a risk. Before he even knew Ruth was available he took a risk in allowing her to work with his people. He took a risk in giving her favor because he could see that she was different; she allowed herself to be separated by the chaff so that she could be better.
Both Boaz and Ruth had allowed God to do a work in their lives. They met on the physical threshing floor but spiritually they met where God had made them better. Then it was left in the other redeemer’s hands. 11 And now, my daughter, do not fear. I will do for you all that you ask, for all my fellow townsmen know that you are a worthy woman. 12 And now it is true that I am a redeemer. Yet there is a redeemer nearer than I.
It shows who we should be.
Boaz and Ruth had to trust their relationship in another person’s hands. They could do nothing more than place their relationship in God’s (the ultimate Redeemer) hands and trust that His Will would prevail. But this was only done because not one but both Ruth and Boaz allowed God to make them people of character and when you know God has your best interest you are able to trust Him regardless of how bad you want something or someone.
Is it wrong for a girl to tell a guy how they feel? It depends on your heart. Because if the boy doesn’t reciprocate those feelings you will have to be okay with that. And you can only be okay with rejection, whether you put yourself out there or feel like you’re constantly being skipped over, when you believe you’ve been accepted by the only One who truly matters.
Ruth 3:11 reminds me of what Jesus told the disciples in John 14:13-14, “Whatever you ask in my name, this I will do, that the Father may be glorified in the Son. If you ask me anything in my name, I will do it.” John 14:13-14 ESV)
This is important not because Jesus is a genie and he will give us anything if we say His name but in those days where rejection is surrounding your heart if you ask, He will remind you of your acceptance. It is important on the days where you feel alone, He will comfort you. It’s even important in the moments when your spouse has wronged you and things are chaotic, in those times your redeemer wants to bring you peace.