Take a moment and imagine it’s your birthday and one of your good friends call you up and they tell you that they want to plan a surprise for you. They assure you that all you have to do is be ready at a specific time and they will take care of everything. From the way that they are talking this surprise is going to be huge. (Think meet and greet passes to see Taylor Swift huge , or another favorite singer of yours). You’re excited to spend time with them and excited to see the surprise.
You start questioning what you should wear. Will it be cold wherever you’re going? Should you dress up? Dress down? Do you need to give them gas money? What time will you be back? Never mind all the questions you trust this person. At least you think to yourself “
I think I do. No I totally trust them.” The day arrives and you’re ready at the exact time. A few minutes go by and there is NO sign of them. You assure yourself that they are on their way. I mean everyone is a little late sometimes. A half of an hour goes by you think about sending them a text making sure they are okay when they finally pull up.
Excitement comes back as you think about all of the possibilities that this surprise can be but your friend seems off. You ask them if things are ok and they nonchalantly say “sure”. They don’t seem in a rush to leave town. You finally say, “I’m so excited for this surprise!!!! I couldn’t sleep last night! Can you give me a hint of what we are doing?” Oblivious by your super surprised tone you friend looks at you and says, “oh well I was just going to drive around and just see whatever happens to us. There’s not really a plan I just thought we’d drive around and maybe get something to eat if we get hungry or something…”
A total let down right?
“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope. Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will hear you. You will seek me and find me, when you seek me with all your heart. I will be found by you, declares the Lord, and I will restore your fortunes and gather you from all the nations and all the places where I have driven you, declares the Lord, and I will bring you back to the place from which I sent you into exile.”
Jeremiah 29:11-14 ESV
I want to first say as someone who has learned from various types of disappointment that I am sorry if it feels like you’re constantly being disappointed but there is super good news!
This last year I realized that I have been absolutely terrified of my future. Fear has been something that I’ve struggled through and the thing fear seemed to attach to the last few years was my future. The enemy used people to speak carelessly mean things over dreams, I allowed those things spoken to create nightmares out of dreams I always longed for. I allowed others choices to tell me what I would one day fall into instead of looking to God for the plans and the purpose He had for my life.
Believing I was doomed was a constant thought.
This summer God made it very clear that He wanted my mind to align with His about my future but first I had to start believing that He was who He said He was. The absolute biggest way He has taught me how to have a mind like Christ has been to read verses that speak directly to the lies and accusations I was believing.
“The steps of a man are established by the Lord, when he delights in his way; though he fall, he shall not be cast headlong, for the Lord upholds his hand.” Psalm 37:23-24 ESV
Last night one of my friends was praying for me and he said, “that Monique would know that your plans for her are not passive plans.” This has been stuck in my mind all day. How often do we believe and perceive God as the friend that gets your hopes up and let’s them down with passivity? For me I’ve looked at Him like that way too often. To think that God doesn’t have plans for us or to believe that He carries a whatever happens happens mindset is to believe God is a liar. I know that one stings. But it’s truth. We can no longer believe the voices that say that we are going to be just like our dysfunctional parent(s), siblings, or worse. We can no longer believe that God is just going to cast us off; that He sits back frustrated at us and approaches us with a hands off mentality. Constantly over thinking how we’ve disappointed Him doesn’t make things right in our relationship with Him. Only running to His presence seeking Him and believing He is who He says and we are who HE says we are will do that.
Jeremiah 29:11 says that He knows the plans He has for us and they are plans of welfare NOT evil. We can trust that.
Think about your wildest dream. Think about the relationship you want to have with your spouse or your children. Think about the way you want help love people and show them the love of your Heavenly Father. Those desires were put in your heart by Him because He plans to do those things through you! He doesn’t have passive plans for you because He doesn’t have passive love for you. He is the most intentional being on this earth. So intentional that even if you don’t do things 100% right (which none of us will) He has a plan to still get you to point B! It doesn’t matter what happens to you or what chaos you create, if you relentlessly go back to Him and surrender your plans for His He will continue to guide you. He knows the things that hurt you, but trust that He did not like that those things were said or done BUT He knows EXACTLY how to use them. Don’t live with a passive mind. You’re so much better than that.