For the longest time I looked at everyone through the lens of perfection. I had been caught up in sin that made me feel like I was the only person on the earth that ever struggled with any thing. Too many times I pushed people away because they got too close and I believed that if they saw me in my darkest hours they would reject me. I trudged through shame, self hatred, loneliness, sadness and hopelessness because I believed that I. was. alone.
Recently I realized how important it is to understand that everyone has a story. Every person on this earth has a time where they have struggled with things that they never thought they could get out of. Every person on this earth has had a time where circumstances took them places they never wanted to go. everyone has a story. and God loves to make things out of the bad that has happened.
I had so many conversations with different people in the past week and they all have asked the same thing. “Did I screw up too bad this time?” For some reason we believe that when we mess up we somehow no longer get our birthright or God no longer has GREAT plans for us. For those that hear the voice
saying shouting that they messed up too much this time I hope you find hope in this…
“For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons,neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, 39 neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Romans 8:38-39
As a leader, understanding that people are going to go through struggles keeps our minds in the reality that we are all human. (Duh right?) But think about it, how many times do we put the ones we lead, our co leaders, and even those who lead us on the high pedestal? I do believe there should be expectations in all of those categories, but with those expectations the grace of God has to flow. I once heard that we shouldn’t expect more of people than God does. The fact that God knows that we will mess up and has forgiveness on reserve for when we do, but us humans don’t try to reserve that same forgiveness and grace is not ok. Ultimately only God can help us forgive those that hurt us or let us down but we have to allow Him.
I recently found comfort in the fact that Ephesians 6:12 says, “12 For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.”
I try to keep this in the forefront of my mind when people are making mistakes around me or when I start to struggle in an area. The truth is that the battle is just as real as we are; humans are just used to show how real that battle is. We can’t see the things going on in the spiritual realm but we can see the symptoms that it produces. When people are dealing with depression, anxiety, or mental breakdowns the devil is trying to destroy sanity, when people start giving themselves to sexual sins the devil is killing purity, and when families are being ripped apart the devil is trying to steal unity. Whatever the outcome is understand that the devil is just trying to steal, kill, and destroy the positive opposite. And the only way you can combat spiritual war is with weapons of the spirit realm.
Out of everything remember that God’s love is unstoppable. If anything gets in His way of His love for us, He will declare war against it. He died for us, He loves us, and He pursues us. Know that He loves to make beautiful things out of us.
Keep your head up.
It can only go up from here